So I decided to make my own black stain using white vinegar and steel wool for a bowl I turned from red oak. While I like the color and the fact that I can still see the grain pattern, it seems to make the wood appear dry and luster-less. I lost everything I had after polishing. What can I do to restore the shine without resorting to a poly? Or should I just sand it down and do something different like BLO? Plus no matter how many times I coated, there are spots that just wont stain and others that are blotchy. Is there a fix??? I'm near to ripping my hair out!