affixing metal bed frame to wood headboard posts
I am looking for hardware to affix a standard angle-iron queen bedframe to the two wooden posts (3" square) on the white oak bed headboard I have just finished fabricating. The iron bed frame has standard pre-drilled holes for this purpose. I would rather not use hex head screws because over the decades with multiple dis- and re-assemblies, the threads in the wood will wear out. I would rather not bolt the headboard all way through since this seems inelegant. One option is to drill a hole part way into the inside side of each wooden post at the level of the iron frame pre-drilled holes for inserting a metal dowel with a tapped screw hole in it, and drill another hole in the post from the front of the post at the same level, all to insert a bolt to affix the metal frame. Any ideas about hardware available for this purpose, or other ways to affix the headboard.