Friend - Woodworking Talk

Haymaker19 · 01-24-2009, 02:26 PM

Wow, were do I start? I'm just looking for some advice on a issue that has been messing with me personality. Here is the problem. I had a friend that is a excellent craftsman build my kitchen cabinets. Well he started in Nov. and I'm still waiting for my shelving and a filler piece to complete my kithcen. I dont have a sink b/c i'm waiting to tile my counter when he finishs all my items. I'm fed up! I have the ability to finish the material myself but I dont want to tramp on any shoes here. I'm at the point that i realized he isn't a friend after all. What is your inputs?

Thanks,
Jason

krazyness · 01-24-2009, 02:37 PM

finish it yourself.

rusty baker · 01-24-2009, 03:49 PM

Just tell him that since he is so busy you'll finish it yourself, and do it.

cabinetman · 01-24-2009, 03:59 PM

Find out what the "real problem" is. Maybe offer to help him finish. Drastic measures may burn bridges.

sweensdv · 01-24-2009, 05:20 PM

Sticky situation to be sure. Burning bridges is usually not the best course of action but his failure to keep you informed as to why he hasn't finished your kitchen doesn't bode well for his end either. I'd approach him with a direct question as to why he has put your job on his back burner. If you're not satisfied with his answer then I'd finish the job myself.

Jason W · 01-24-2009, 05:32 PM

Is he really busy? Did he give you a lower price if he could do your job between other things? Do you owe him money? Better yet, does he think you owe him money?

Seems like a piece of the puzzle is missing here.

spleify · 01-24-2009, 06:43 PM

I would just finish it my self.

WarnerConstInc. · 01-24-2009, 07:00 PM

Sounds like every cabinet guy I know.

raskgle · 01-24-2009, 07:08 PM

Sounds like a price made to low, or a payment made in advance. materials up front labor when finish. Carl.

Haymaker19 · 01-24-2009, 09:05 PM

I just got some information he has been having a battle with the bottle lately.

I talked to him and told him I need it done and offered to help.

As my dad always said, "Its one thing to drink, it's another to not be able to work after drinking."

BHOFM · 01-24-2009, 09:52 PM

Dump the drunk, do it your self.

I have had nothing but bad luck with boozers.

Jason W · 01-24-2009, 10:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Haymaker19

As my dad always said, "Its one thing to drink, it's another to not be able to work after drinking."

Sounds right to me.

goingenoan · 01-25-2009, 01:14 PM

I remember a long time ago my mother hired a couple of painters to redo the inside of her house. At first things were going well then it turned into a nightmare. Turns out the painters were coke addicts. Whenever they got some money they would stick it up their noses. One day they didn't show up for work. Turns out they got busted and went to jail. The job was only 65 % complete!
My thoughts about your situation is that your friend is stepping on your toes and not the other way around! So be upfront with the guy and then move on. Finish it yourself or find another qualified person to finish it.

Sawduster · 01-25-2009, 01:38 PM

Ask him if he'd mind if you finished it because you have company coming or something. He'll either say go ahead or he'll get busy. Don't make his problems your problems.

User3489 · 01-25-2009, 06:28 PM

[quote=BHOFM;62399]Dump the drunk, do it your self.

I have had nothing but bad luck with boozers.[

Hey Guys: Easy with the slang for addicted people. It is a sickness they cannot fight themselves. I am recovering from alcohal addiction. Been sober 20 years, 5days ago.

Maybe ask him if he can finish your job sober. If not,do it yourself. Don't baby him as it will do him no good. ( or you ).

Tough spot with a friend and all. Good luck Tom-3